Live Life Like a Good “boy”
Forgive the gendered language in the title. This is really not directed at one specific gender. That’s not supposed to be the point of this. What I’m really getting at here might actually seem far worse than only addressing one gender depending who you are. If what I’m about to say rustles your jimmies in the slightest you may need to re-evaluate your whole life.
What I mean by all of this is that, while there are some aspects of authority that need to be challenged because of corrupt practices, one also has to accept that their life is being held together by the authorities they want to tear down. Follow me on this. I’m not Christian. I’m far from it. I actually enjoy my own personal reformed take on Odinism. You might roll your eyes at the least, or even worse yet feel that I need to be killed or re-educated because I’m a Nazi. This is the same prejudice that you claim to fight so hard against. It’s no different. I enjoy the morality of religion, and the piety — not the dogma.
I’m not a white supremacist. Far from it. I feel that most whites are over entitled slobs that think they should be treated like royalty because “USA #1!” Most of them haven’t worked for shit in their lives. The ones that have tend to be more tolerable, but again we’re getting into race politics at that point which is something I hate. They want to have the best of both worlds. They want to have access to all the entitlements that their parents and grandparents received from the flourishing post war economy. I realize this is a pretty US centric topic for the most part, and I apologize for that polarity. At the same time they want to say, “fuck authority” and live without consequence or responsibility for their situation when it’s not going their way.
In one of my previous articles I talked about how I’ve noticed that fully grown adults act like children when they are told no. They whine and give you a sob story desperately trying to get their way regardless of the answer they’ve been given. It disgusts me. What I really think disgusts me more is that my situation is far more privileged than theirs. I live with my parents. I don’t want to live with my parents, and I’m working on that. I used to be just like them, and it’s a deep hole to dig myself out of. I’m working on that. I don’t really see others working on it to that degree.
Take a look at this:
That’s ridiculous. Millions of people, and a pretty sizable percentage of people in the US at that, are getting disability. I won’t say anything bad about those people because we all fight our own battles and we all have different strengths and weaknesses. My objection comes anecdotally, admittedly, from my own situation. I was told for a fucking decade to just keep applying for SSI. I was told I’ll never be able to take care of myself. I did what I was told then, which is going to sound contradictory to my main argument here, but I followed orders because of the progress my mental state had while under their care. The reality is that this was not the case.
After the events of my life continued to unfold stuck in this hamster wheel of self pity, and handout seeking my father asked me, “Why don’t you try to go back to school at the very least?” I said “What the hell?” and applied to go to school online. I was quite surprised at how well I had gotten at dealing with stress of such things and I still go to school and do fairly well at it. I eventually got tired of getting denied social security because I refused to tell the authorities that I was not going to be able to take care of myself. I didn’t want the situation to be permanent anymore. I wanted temporary help. I still got denied but I don’t care and I’ve stopped applying. I got a job. If you can’t get a job I suggest a place like Goodwill. They hired me despite my employment record. I now work full time and go to school, and it’s easier on me than any other time in my life.
My point is I stopped worrying about what was “unfair” in my life, and started getting up and going out to try to fix it. I have a plan now, and I won’t stop working until I succeed in some capacity. I still have a lot to learn in the way of financial responsibility, but there’s always something one can work on.
This is where I had the idea for “Living the good boy life” There’s a lot to be said for it. My mental state is less depressed because I feel like I’m working and progressing towards something. What I’m working on now is my physical health. I’m trying to eat better and exercise more. Be a good boy. Go to work. Don’t start fights you don’t need to. Be courteous. Be kind, even if you don’t think the other person deserves it. (let me tell you there are tons of people I’m nice to every day that I don’t think deserve it) Eat right, take care of yourself, brush your teeth, and make appropriate time for your hobbies and interests.
If you just live like a “good boy” and stop fighting and struggling against an authority structure that is simply trying to get you to do these things for your own good then you’ll be a lot happier. I’m not saying don’t call out corruption either. What I’m saying is that not everything that inconveniences your life of privilege is authoritarian oppression. You have no idea how bad it actually gets when it comes to that. You think you know injustice but as far as you know injustice is just something happening that you don’t like. Sometimes things play out the way that they do in order to protect society from something far worse.
This is where it gets complicated. There are certain actors at play that ARE corrupt and they ARE racist. But not everyone is “ist” against everything simply because they are not that thing. There are things that need to be worked on socially for sure but these little things pale in comparison to the actual systemic oppression from the political structures of last century and long before that.
Here’s a good example:
When you meet a black person, as a white person, for the first time DO NOT instantly start talking about hip-hop or black issues. It comes across as very fake and it makes race an issue with someone that you don’t even really know yet. Start out by calling them sir or ma’am or whatever they want to go by on a formal level. Afford them every decency that you would anyone else you’re meeting for the first time. Be a “good boy.” Make them feel comfortable that something they deal with far more frequently than you know or can imagine is not something they have to deal with when it comes to you interacting with them.
Also, while you’re at it, if they are being fucked with on that level, and you can use your privilege to help them then do so. DO NOT make a big deal out of it. Simply defend what needs to be justly defended. People will look at others and make assumptions. This is natural. I feel like people need to be taught on some level the ins and outs of this social dance to some degree. It took me forever to get it. It was actually an episode of South Park that opened my eyes. You getting it is as simple as recognizing that you will NEVER get it.
Things are starting to come full circle though. I notice a lot of white people get really bent out of shape when the average person starts developing negative generalizations about white people. Imagine this happens no matter where you go or what you do. No matter what your reputation is in other circles you still have this negativity directed at you in minute ways. Well, people are growing increasingly more aware of just how entitled you are, and they don’t like it one bit. They’re tired of you expecting to be the most important person in the room at all times. I personally find it disgusting because as I said earlier you inherited all of it, and most of it isn’t earned. Even if you do work hard you’re not supposed to be better than anyone else. This is all true despite the justified expectation that other people should be working hard to earn the things they have.
So yes, you should be a “good boy” and you should work hard on your self mentally, physically, and socially. Realize that generalizations and assumptions will ALWAYS happen no matter what, and that it is futile to fight this part of humanity but it is not futile to be aware of your tendency to do this, and it IS something you can work on. Be a “good boy” eat right, brush your teeth, treat people with respect no matter what, and obey the rules even when no one is looking. Discipline and responsibility in all things is something that we should strive for and cultivate in our society. Lead by example. Correct bad behavior by example. This is what made America “great” and not doing these things is why America, I feel, Is dying a slow and painful death. Thank you.