On My Most Disgusting Rant Ever
I wrote a pretty stupid bit of writing a few weeks ago about gender. Here’s all I have to say about it. I was wrong. I recall talking to one of my friends years before I came out and he told me he was bisexual. I asked him what was up with that because at the time I had the fear of god in me about the issue. His response was really quite simple, and I think makes more sense than any other argument on the issue. If you fall in love with someone why let preconceived notions about gender and sexuality get in the way. If you love them, then be with them.
I thought about this a lot after I wrote that piece and the whole thing bothered me so I deleted it. Trans and non-binary people at the end of the day are people just like you and me. They’re fighting the same fight we all are. What rights you think they should and shouldn’t have really should have no bearing on them because they, like all people, should be resilient enough to just say fuck you to the people that want to restrict or belittle them.
At the end of the day if you’re taking care of yourself nobody will know if you’re using the “wrong” restroom. Sure there will always be someone that will call you out because you didn’t pass for them. Some people have it rougher than others. This is where non-binary people come into play and create a situation where they can help out the trans community. If we create a non-binary space then people who don’t want to be fucked with have a place to go if they feel uncomfortable in either space. That’s my solution for it.
At the end of the day I was wrong to write such a long rant about gender. Your identity is completely up to you. Biology will always label you an x or a y but you should be free to live life as you choose. I know a lot of people disagree here, but I happened to be of the mind that freedom is what we should all strive for. I have my limits, and I am personally not a trans / non-binary chaser. But, if I ever met one of those individuals and we fell in love I wouldn’t let myself be held back by what other people think or what genitals they had. Like I said it’s not what I’m looking for but who knows how love will grab you in the future. Just try to be nice to others. Happy people try to make others happy by my estimation. Let’s spread some happy around?
